Weddings are a time of insurmountable pressure and an absurd focus on perfection. That is why (even long before I became a planner myself) I always tell newly engaged couples one thing. HIRE. A. PLANNER. My husband and I hired a day-of coordinator because I did not want to feel like a producer at my own wedding. In the end we agreed it was the best money we spent. Of course, whether you hire a planner or not, things inevitably go wrong. My bustle broke a whopping 5 times between the cocktail hour and the last dance. Thank goodness my planner had the mecca of safety pins.